I See You

I clearly see your faults, but what about Mine

Why is it we can clearly see and of course have an opinion about another’s situation or flaws, yet we can’t see our own? Is it easier to point out issues in someone else’s life than deal with our own? It’s like we have a magical Magnifying Glass that only views others.

Do I Have Dirty Laundry?

Why are we so quick to point out the error in the ways of others, but we can’t or won’t look at those same faults in us. We refuse too look in the mirror, because we are too busy examining and picking others apart. It amazes me how some people can talk about someone else’s issue, when they are guilty of the exact same thing. I knew someone who did this all the time, it seem they were blind to their own character flaws. I guess that’s why there is the scripture about the Speck and Log, that we should all heed.

Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT)
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye”.

Honoring Our Parents

Also, why are we over there doing for Mrs Doe who’s an elderly woman in our neighborhood, who has children and family? We run her errands, pick up groceries and medicines, all the time complaining that her family should be doing it (and they should), while we don’t do the same for our own elderly parents or family members. Trust me, the people who are doing for your parents or relatives are wondering why you aren’t doing due diligence for your own. Do for them first and after you have done for them, then help others. If you see something that needs to be done, do it, don’t point it out and talk about it.

I believe honoring your parents includes taking care of them when they are old and not leaving the responsibilities to others. See 1 Timothy 5:4 and Exodus 20:12. I recently read an article about a daughter who put her elderly father, who had dementia, on a plane, alone and sent him to his unknowing ex-wife across the country, because she couldn’t deal with him. Clearly she was not honoring her father.

What About our Log?

An example, Mindy keeps a terrible house, but have you looked at yours lately? I definitely don’t need to throw stones or talk about someone else’s house. Lol. By the way, there may be extenuating circumstances as to why her house is that way or maybe you can lovingly offer some organization and cleaning tips. Let’s focus on being better, let’s look at our own log before we start pointing out the specks in someone elses life. Let’s be genuinely concerned about others and see if it’s a reason for their actions.

Maybe someone slurs a little, not because of an alcohol problem, but they had a stroke and one time couldn’t speak at all. Perhaps someone does have an alcohol or drug issue; they may have loss someone they loved and couldn’t cope; feel like a failure at life; have guilt or some other type of pain they are trying to escape. The very least we can do is pray for them, not talk about them, point our finger and remind them of their imperfections (I’m sure Satan is doing all of this and more).

There is an old Gospel Song, ”Sweep Around Your Own Front Door” by the Williams Brother, a little reminder for us to focus on us. 2019 is here, let’s do better! Here are a few resolutions we can implement in our lives:

  • Pray for others. It’s not about us all the time.
  • Spend more time with God
  • If you fall a few times, get back on the proverbial horse and see it as life lesson! You are not a failure!
  • Introduce Fasting to your routine. One day fast scaring you, start small, try giving up one meal to start. Fasting not only draws you closer to God, but it has physical benefits too.
  • Encourage others! We all need encouragement sometimes.

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Spending Time with God

Letter from the Throne – December 2018

Celebrate the birth of ChristHello, Hello, Hellooo. I know you’re busy, so I’m giving you a little tap on the shoulder to get your attention! Finally, Lol. It’s almost the day mankind has chosen to celebrate the birth of my son, Jesus the Christ. I know you can’t forget with all this tinsel, decoration and presents.

Celebrate the birth of Christ

Christmas Time is Here

Wow! Christmas is drawing near and the holiday hustle and bustle has already begun. Sending cards, decorating, hanging lights and wrapping gifts. Yes, it’s that season again.

We are listening to holiday songs and celebrating, but why? What is Christmas really about? Is it about a Santa Clause, Rudolph; and the Grinch? I remember one comedy show said Santa, actually spelled Satan when the letters were switched. It was said as a joke, but it may not be far from the truth.

Where’s Your Focus

We have taken our focus off the Christ in Christmas. Instead, we think about our gift list, shopping, the endless hours of Christmas shows we watch, parties and celebrations, but how often do we think about Jesus? He really is the reason for the season.

Also, as convenient as it maybe to use Xmas instead of Christmas, I always try to spell it out now (I didn’t use to), to remind myself why Christmas exists. It’s about the birth of Christ. Let’s keep Him as the center of our festivities this season and if we start feeling overwhelmed, remember it’s about Him, not the gifts, the big meal, decorating or other Christmas activities. Let’s truly fellowship with each other; bask in the love Christ has for us and share His love with others.

Experience the True Meaning of Christmas

Do something nice for an unsuspecting person. Buy an extra gift, pay for the car behind you when you go through the drive-thru, give generously to organizations who are providing Christmas meals to the homeless or cook some extra just for them, along with giving them items to keep them warm this Winter (socks, gloves, hats, hand warmers, blankets, etc). See below for other organizations you can give to.

Love is the true meaning of Christmas. Give it to one another. BTW, I love the scene at the end of “How the Grinch Stole Christmas”, when everyone is holding hands and singing with no gifts or celebratory food, just pure love! Yes, cliche as it maybe, Jesus is the Reason for the Season!

Do we really remember what Christmas is about? Let’s stop and thank God for the greatest gift of all, JESUS!

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Let’s Give Thanks

God’s blessings grow when they are shared. Thanksgiving blessings
Thanksgiving Blessings

To you and your family, have a safe and peaceful Thanksgiving. We have a lot to be thankful for. Even if things aren’t perfect, such as our health, finances or relationships, we still can give thanks. Things may not be where we want them, but we have a chance to reflect on what we do have.

Remember, there’s always something to be grateful for, no matter how small or inconsequential it may seem. I would hear people testify about being thankful for the  breath in their lungs. What, breath in your lungs? Until I experienced shortness of breath, I couldn’t relate, but now I can. I praise God  I don’t have to have an Oxygen Tank following me around and I’m not on a respirator or some other breathing mechanism.

Let’s share our blessings. Take a plate or two to your neighbor who can’t afford a big dinner, or someone who’s sick; visit someone in the hospital or nursing home, or take time to feed the homeless (make some extra just for them). God may not physically rain down Turkeys on the less fortunate, but if He’s blessed us, we  can rain on them from the overflow at our tables.

Let’s say a prayer for those less fortunate and share the blessings we do have.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Philippians 4:6

A Change is Coming…are you in the way?

A Change, a Change has come over meOh Lord, please change Mike, Sue and Marylou. We fast and pray, with tears streaming down our face, for years asking God to save people, to change them, deliver them, etc. You want your husband to rise up and be the Priest and King of your household, but you consistently speak of his failures, flaws and negative habits. You want your wife to be the Proverbs 31 woman, but you always point out her short comings.  You say you want the person to change, but do you really? After all, if they change, you’ll have to change too.

Relationship Woes?

Hope for the broken heartedThe good news is GOD LOVES YOU! You are an exquisite painting God created stoke by stroke, adding all of the subtle nuisances that make you unique and precious. What seems like a shut door, an injustice, or betrayal is God’s way of protecting you from more of the same. If you choose to go down that road again, it will result in tears, heartache and pain. Yes, God is protecting you from all of this and while you may have temporary pain, it’s better than being permanently scarred with a wound that won’t heal.

What if?

Also, please rid your mind of the nagging “what if’s”. You may never know the “what if’s” of the future, but if that person has repeatedly lied, cheated and hurt you over and over, chances are the future will be more of the same. You are beautiful inside and out, with a loving spirit and gentle heart. God knows this and he’s protecting you from your bad decisions, “maybe this time…”, “by now they should have it together”, “this time I know it’ll be different”, etc. While some people do change, if they have made the same mistakes, year after year, chances are they won’t. And you can’t move on with “what if” looming in your thoughts.

Maya Angelo once said “If somebody shows you who they are, believe them”. Our problem is we don’t want to. We put on our Rose colored glasses and see what we want to see and make excuses to ourselves and others, for why the person did X,Y and Z. If the writing is on the wall, read it and heed it.

Leaving the Past

It’s time to leave the past behind, “Behold, I will do a new thing,  now it shall spring up. Shall you not know it?” Isaiah 43:19. If you’re doing everything you can to hold onto the past, it’s doubtful that you will ever know what the new thing is. This is your new beginning. Leave the past in the past, along with all of your hurts, anger and emotional wounds. God has something much better for you. Let me say that again, God has something much better for you.

Yes, it may mean being alone for a while, but God has to cut those emotional ties and heal your wounds, else you will always keep that door to your past cracked. Please close that door and ask God to remove any and all reminents of those feelings you have for him/her. God wants that door shut, closed, and sealed. Then, He has to build you up and prepare you for that special someone He may have for you. Don’t throw your future away, because you are still chained to the past. Be done with it once and for all.

Remember, you are beautiful, inside and out. Don’t let someone who dosen’t appreciate you and know your worth keep you down. Lift up your head and wear your crown proudly. After all, you are a Prince/Princess of the king, made in His image. Who would want to mar such a stunning being as you? Only one who doesn’t deserve you!

Letter from the Throne – September 2018

Woman sitting on window sill with words swirling around her (depression, sickness, debt, broken relationships, worry, fear)Many of you are going through fiery trials, right now. You feel like your life is a whirlwind of problems and soon as you solve one, another one blows along. Your marriage may be hanging by a thread, job issues or no job at all, stress, grief, broken relationships, addictions, health challenges, or financial woes.  …

Churchgoer, Saved or a Disciple. Do you Know the Difference?

Saved, Churchgoer or Disciple Churchgoer

Many people attend church services Sunday or Saturday and walk away completely satisfied that they’ve met their spiritual obligation for the week. We put on our church face, our Sunday Best, perfume/cologne and of course throw out our favorite spiritual lines…I’m Blessed and highly favored, Praise the Lord, I’m too blessed to be stressed. Sound familiar?

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